| For most of my life, I've felt hopelessly
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| | once for lunch the whole three years of
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| weird," said Heather, an introvert in her
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| | high school, because I could never find
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| early thirties. "Like I don't really fit
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| | anyone to sit with and it was easier to
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| in. I've learned how to fool some of the
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| | starve than go sit in there. Eventually I
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| people some of the time - there are those
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| | got to hang out in the band office during
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| who swear I can't possibly be introverted
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| | lunch. Did theater and speech team and
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| - but I know better. Solitude and reading
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| | French Club and the Literary magazine.
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| time are like oxygen for me; and too much
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| | Never had any really good friends though
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| time spent with other people (especially
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| | until the last year."
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| talkative sorts) is draining."
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| | Now you've heard it from the horse's
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| Heather struggled with being an introvert
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| | mouth. Introverted teens find little
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| in her teen years and has been coming to
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| | value in extraneous socializing.
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| terms with it more as a young adult.
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| | Homeroom, clubs, dances, prom committees
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| She's not alone. Being a teen can be
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| | and most of all the dreaded lunchroom are
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| stressful and even more so for
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| | annoying and exhausting to introverts.
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| introverts, who have to withstand all the
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| | When they get home, the favored activity
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| social pressures of a typical high school
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| | is reading or other quiet pursuits.
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| day which are exhausting to introverts
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| | The exception may be academic clubs which
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| and of no intrinsic value.
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| | tend to contain more intelligent
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| For some of us, high school was a long
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| | students. With a rise in intelligence,
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| time ago! We can understand the needs of
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| | the ratio of introverts rises as well.
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| introverted teens better and support them
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| | Studies have shown that the proportions
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| in growth on their own terms by going
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| | almost reverse themselves among Rhodes
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| back for a moment to look at the high
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| | Scholars and Phi Beta Kappas. Many of the
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| school years and the demands that are
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| | more academic groups and committees are
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| made on teens beyond the academic.
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| | run by and for introverts and can be
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| Most high schools are set up to please
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| | satisfying to participate in.
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| extroverts, who are the majority of the
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| | Introverts also prefer private projects
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| population 3:1. Introverts may find a
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| | (art, creative, musical instrument) and
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| typical day overcrowded, over
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| | will often choose to pursue these in
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| stimulating, noisy, oppressive and
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| | their time off.
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| stressful. The lunch room seems to be a
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| | Some introverts are comfortable with
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| particularly awful experience.
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| | their personality type even in high
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| Introverted teens suffer from an almost
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| | school. We were struck with those who
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| total lack of privacy as well.
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| | made the best of it, humorously or
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| We decided to get asked a group of
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| | otherwise, but we personally identified
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| introverts how they felt about high
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| | with those who walked the halls for a
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| school. Here are some replies.
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| | moment of privacy and who didn't eat
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| 1."High school was better than grade
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| | because they couldn't handle the dynamics
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| school because there was more
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| | of the lunch room.
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| individualness to the curriculum. I
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| | When your introverted teen gets home, he
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| remember wanting to be alone at lunch
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| | or she may need time alone to fill back
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| time, even though I had friends to sit
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| | up again. In fact, one of the greatest
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| with, but there was no excuse to get away
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| | gifts we can give an introvert of any age
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| from people. Sometimes I'd go to the
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| | is a room of their own with a door that
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| library to pretend to work on projects in
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| | closes!
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| the quiet, or I'd walk in the halls (I
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| | Let's take a look at what some of the
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| went to a huge school) and pretend I was
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| | introverts on the survey said they liked
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| walking somewhere, just for a moment
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| | to do when they got home from high school
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| alone."
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| | every day. Some of the answers may
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| 2."Hated it. It was noisy and there
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| | surprise you.
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| always seemed to be an element of danger
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| | 1."Eat or watch TV."
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| in the air. The teenage stage of human
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| | 2."Every so often talk on the phone with
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| development is probably the most
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| | a friend, but otherwise make my own
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| dangerous. If teens had access to nukes,
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| | dinner, watch some TV or listen to folk
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| we'd all be doomed! LOL."
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| | and protest music and/or teach myself to
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| 3."Loved high school. Gave me a greater
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| | play the guitar, and do some homework."
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| opportunity to be a nerd. Loved carting
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| | 3."Sort out my homework, then do some
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| all those books around. Instead of
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| | reading"
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| getting my books from my locker as I
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| | 4."By this time my sister was more
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| needed them, I got all the books I'd need
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| | self-sufficient so I'd usually go to my
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| first thing in the morning and get rid of
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| | bedroom, watch TV, write and daydream. I
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| them as I no longer needed them. If there
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| | spent A LOT of my time inside my head."
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| was homework assigned for a class, I
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| | 5."I spent a lot of time by myself
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| carried that book all day, and usually
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| | outside of the sport and school
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| got through all the homework before I
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| | activities I tried to get people to be
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| actually had to take it home."
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| | friends with."
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| 4."I liked studying and reading but I did
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| | 6."Read"
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| not interact with my peers because by
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| | 7."I by then was very organized and fast
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| that age, everyone seemed to have made up
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| | at completing chores, so I had time to
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| their mind that I was much too different
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| | paint and write."
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| and weird so I remained alone."
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| | 8."Babysit my little brother, make
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| 5."I can't say that I did like it - it
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| | dinner... the usual."
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| was really just a job to me. I needed to
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| | 9."I have been sleeping a lot after
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| get great grades because there was no
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| | school. I'm an introverted kid, and I
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| money for college. So I tracked myself
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| | used to feel bad about wanting to sleep
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| into the academic side and wound up in
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| | after school cause I was so tired, but
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| Honors and AP classes. I became Editor of
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| | now I feel better. I play the clarinet
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| the newspaper which was a big deal since
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| | now, so I practice that and read."
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| the paper had a tradition of winning a
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| | 10."Got a snack and took a nap. I
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| lot of regional and national journalism
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| | DESPISED high school."
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| awards. I edited the literary magazine,
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| | 11."Cry, eat"
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| helped with the yearbook, and did a lot
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| | 12."Practiced my saxophone. Drew
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| of debate. Basically, if I thought it
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| | pictures. Went overboard on any creative
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| would look good for college I did it if
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| | projects the teachers gave me. Like, we
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| it wasn't completely horrible like the
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| | were supposed to do an introduction to an
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| Prom Committee. Teachers liked me. Other
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| | epic poem in rhyming couplets. Mine was
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| students just ignored me. I had some
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| | ten pages, and a whole rhyming couplet
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| friends and I dated guys who went to
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| | version of what happened after the end of
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| other schools. Really any social life I
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| | "the Phantom of the Opera." The book, not
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| had involved kids who were high academic
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| | the musical. In history we made
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| achievers both in my own school and at
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| | children's books, and I was the first one
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| other high schools. We all knew each
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| | the teacher ever gave a perfect score to
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| other from debate, chess club, academic
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| | because mine was fully illustrated and
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| competitions or whatever. Frankly,
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| | had doors and windows that opened to
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| probably more than half of these kids
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| | pictures underneath."
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| were introverts so there wasn't a lot of
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| | 13."Since I'm in high school that's easy,
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| pressure to conform to a "peer group". A
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| | I go home and watch an hour of Sliders
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| lot of the normal stuff of high school
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| | and then I usually read homework or my
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| just flew under my radar. I couldn't get
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| | book for fun and go on the internet."
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| involved in the status dressing thing -
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| | Please understand how stressful a high
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| no money. I couldn't get involved in the
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| | school day can be for your introverted
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| drink or drug until you puke thing - no
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| | teen. Give him or her the privacy and
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| money, looked stupid. I couldn't get
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| | quiet time desired when they get home in
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| involved in the high end sex thing -
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| | the afternoon and, if possible, a room of
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| pregnancy would have absolutely ended my
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| | their own with a door that closes!
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| college ambitions. So I stayed out of
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| | Above all, appreciate the ability of the
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| trouble and had a fairly okay time."
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| | introverted teen to stand alone. In plain
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| 6."High school was fine. I had a small
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| | English, this means their ability to
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| group of friends, but preferred to be
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| | withstand the peer pressures of drugs,
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| alone on the weekends. I was always "the
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| | alcohol, smoking and premarital sex are
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| quiet one" in the group."
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| | practically ironclad.
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| 7."I hated high school with a passion. I
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| | This is what one introvert said, "I was
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| should have been home schooled. I was too
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| | the nerdiest goody two shoes in high
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| sensitive and introverted to be thrown
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| | school you could possibly imagine. I was
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| into the lions den. My elementary school
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| | so shy I don't think I spoke to anyone
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| never really prepared me for studies like
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| | the whole four years. But in a way, boys
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| geometry and I had parents that were busy
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| | like that kind of girl, thinking they can
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| and too permissive. So not having the
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| | push you around I suppose. So I got asked
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| help I needed to get over my math
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| | out a lot. Anyway, I had one guy try to
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| learning disability (discaculia) I
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| | force me to take a drink of wine. He
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| rebelled with drugs to escape the pain of
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| | simply could not believe it when I said
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| having to socialize and study."
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| | no and meant it. Since I didn't care what
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| 8."I hated the immaturity of the other
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| | anyone thought about me anyway, it was
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| students. They made other student's
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| | easy. I thought he was pathetic to even
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| business their business and I thought
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| | try!"
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| that was not only immature but antisocial
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| | Introverts don't have the normal
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| and destructive. I hated high school
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| | extroverted teen's craving to be part of
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| because it didn't address the complete
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| | the group. On some level, most of them
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| person. I wanted to know the map of the
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| | know it isn't going in that direction
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| human psyche. I wanted to learn about
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| | anyway. Introverts are also well ahead of
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| human behavior and take it apart under a
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| | the game in knowing who they are. Some of
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| microscope."
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| | the those interviewed mentioned a focus
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| 9."Please tell me it gets better from
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| | on getting into college or making good
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| here. I'm still in it, if that clarifies
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| | grades and were not tempted to get off
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| anything. I hate everyone here. No, I
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| | track by pursuing activities of less
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| mean everyone. There's maybe a few people
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| | mature classmates.
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| I don't altogether hate, but only a few.
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| | Last but not least, your introverted teen
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| It's pretty depressing really, being
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| | may not be susceptible to peer pressure
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| surrounded by 2000 kids my own age and I
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| | where things like drugs and sex are
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| can't make a single friend. Oh well,
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| | concerned. Next time you see him or her
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| college will be better. Hopefully...
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| | "hiding out" at the internet, you can
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| 10.I was a band geek and an AP English
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| | thank your lucky stars for the
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| student. I think I ate in the cafeteria
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| | introvert's innate self reliance.
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