| It has only been in the last few years that we have | | | | For instance, when you have your own business you |
| begun to understand how poor communication can | | | | need to build good relationships with potential |
| lead to abuse outside of the home. When our parents | | | | customers. If you don't have good communication skills |
| constantly tell us that we are less than perfect or | | | | or know how to express your appreciation to |
| come us to someone else, even though they may not | | | | someone else, then you will not succeed in business. |
| be realizing itt they are giving you an inferiority | | | | This is important because even when you work for |
| complex. As a child when you feel you don't measure | | | | someone, you want to hold the job long term; but if |
| up to someone else, especially when you grow up in a | | | | you do know how to know how me and Kate in the |
| home where there is a lot of physical abuse, you learn | | | | workplace with your superiors or your subordinates, |
| that by abusing someone else it gives you power over | | | | then there will only be hostility in the workplace. That is |
| them. The problem is that this is inappropriate behavior | | | | why in recent years, you'll have heard stories about |
| in public. | | | | someone who came back to the workplace after he |
| Think about this and this scenario: your father goes to | | | | was fired, to kill his coworkers or create chaos among |
| work and his boss verbally abuses him for not doing a | | | | his past coworkers. |
| good job-- he cannot speak for himself because he is | | | | Television has also attributed to this violent behavior |
| afraid he may lose his job; then when he gets home | | | | because they often do not depict reality in shows. You |
| he has a fight with his spouse or children and then | | | | may wetness on the screen someone being been one |
| takes out his anger towards his boss on his wife and | | | | moment and then see them the next moment with no |
| children. This is often what happened in the last | | | | bruises. Therefore, you may not recognize that your |
| century in the workplace. During that era, abuse was | | | | behavior has consequences. Then when you see |
| often looked at as a discipline, therefore, it was only | | | | what your violent behavior can cause, that is the |
| after it became an epidemic boat in the home and in | | | | damage done to the individual-- both physically and |
| the workplace, that society began to address these | | | | emotionally, it may be a real shock to you. In some |
| issues. | | | | soap operas where they use storylines about abuse, |
| We need to learn how to communicate approval of | | | | they will often have public service announcements |
| someone's behavior, as well as, disapproval of their | | | | after the show with the actor, letting you know where |
| behavior. We do this by letting them know that we do | | | | to turn to to get assistance if you are the victim and |
| not like their actions in that situation at that particular | | | | even if you are the perpetrator. |
| time. But you also need to let them know that you liked | | | | Good communication means learning how to express |
| them as a person because this helps give them self | | | | our feelings about how we are treated and learning |
| esteem. When you only hear someone being limply | | | | the right way to respond to someone in any given |
| constantly, then you learn to think of yourself as being | | | | situation. We also need to learn how to diffuse our |
| inferior in some way. Unless you learn to recognize | | | | anger, so we don't take it out on the wrong person. |
| why you feel the way you do and change your | | | | Just look at this the mistakes of criminals they grew up |
| behavior, you will only repeat the same inappropriate | | | | in homes where they were abused as children and |
| behavior in the relationship you have with your spouse | | | | later committed crimes against someone else to give |
| and children. History always repeats itself. | | | | them power because they felt inferior. This is why |
| We need to learn how to recognize what is good | | | | group therapy is important when you need to relearn |
| behavior and what is bad behavior. As children our | | | | how to pat yourself on the back and learn to build your |
| parents can tell us what is good and bad behavior, but | | | | own self-esteem. Often it takes a therapist to help us |
| as adults we need to learn to recognize the difference | | | | recognize these inappropriate behaviors and learn how |
| so we can exhibit good behavior. This is especially | | | | to change our behavior for the better. |
| important if we want to succeed in the business world. | | | | |