| If you are past your teens you probably suffered the | | | | sooner you do the easier and less painful will be your |
| loss of someone you care for. After all death is as | | | | journey back to normality. |
| common as birth but somehow we do not view it as | | | | After all grieving over loss is an natural process and if |
| part of the natural process of life. Our culture does not | | | | faced and integrated properly can enhance your |
| support grieving. Many of us are afraid of death, we | | | | future rather then diminishing it. ANy kind of trauma has |
| don't understand it and therefore suppress any | | | | a lesson hidden beneath it. When you see this and |
| emotions as best as we can. Unfortunately this coping | | | | integrate the lesson, whatever it may be for you, you |
| mechanism, one that is encouraged by our society | | | | will get over your loss so much faster. |
| also, has got many a hidden danger. The danger is that | | | | Any kind of loss needs integrating |
| suppressed emotions around bereavement can well | | | | Bereavement, grief, loss of course goes way beyond |
| truly ruin your life and you may not even know it. | | | | losing someone we care for. In fact, divorce, the loss |
| When faced with the prospect of someone dear to us | | | | of health or money are all in the same category and |
| dying we invariably are pushed to our limits and quite | | | | need to be coped with and integrated when they |
| often beyond. As if coping with life's changed | | | | occur. |
| circumstances wasn't enough we also are pushed to | | | | I repeat: failure to do so can seriously affect the quality |
| the limits of our understanding of what it is all about. | | | | of your life. "Getting on with life" is the catch phrase of |
| Losing someone suddenly, or when we are very | | | | our society. Too many of us live by this adage and are |
| young highlights these existentialist fears. Modern | | | | true masters of suppression and self delusion. |
| society has not got the support system extended | | | | This is all well and good but I know from my own |
| families used to provide in the past. In our busy lives | | | | experience and experience with many clients that |
| we do not take the time out to connect properly with | | | | unless you face the bereavement and fully integrate it, |
| each other, let alone give each other the luxury of | | | | you will suffer unnecessarily. Parts of your life will not |
| compassion through listening caring and understanding | | | | work and sometimes 20 or 30 years later you may |
| when someone goes through the trauma of loss. | | | | realise why, often you may never know where the |
| This is a great shame and explains why proper | | | | real reason for your problems originated. .That is a |
| counselling is so important for anyone who has | | | | tragic waste indeed. |
| suffered a loss.Seeking refuge in religions or cults | | | | Of course this need not be so. With energy therapy |
| unfortunately is not a sound idea. Whilst it might give | | | | and cognitive therapy you can work gently at |
| you temporary support, it is also a surefire way of | | | | resolving, integrating and healing the trauma of any kind |
| giving away your personal power or freedom. In fact | | | | of loss. Fortunately there are many techniques |
| looking for support in that way can be downright | | | | available today and you can take your pick. |
| dangerous and lead you when you are already out of | | | | If you are lucky enough to realise that you may need |
| balanced into a place of delusion and estranging you | | | | help getting over the death of someone you care for |
| from yourself as well as the real world. | | | | or your divorce, or whatever else it may be, take |
| Another coping mechanism often sought is drugs, | | | | steps now to help you recover your equilibrium faster |
| alcohol, tranquillisers or antidepressants. It is easy to | | | | and get your life back on track. Whatever your belief |
| become dependant On these and apart from the | | | | system, one thing is for sure, you have only one shot |
| obvious dangers to your physical health, extended use | | | | at this particular life and you may as well be kind to |
| of drugs can seriously ruin a life. It stands to reason to | | | | yourself and get the tools to navigate it as skilfully as |
| seek help sooner rather then later. Because the | | | | you can. |