Contrast - A Wagner Opera and Its Lessons For a Fulfilling Life

Yesterday I had the privilege to see Wagner's TristanIf you think carefully, how would you know and value
Und Isolde at the Metropolitan Opera House in Newhappiness if you didn't feel sadness? How would you
York City. It was a 5-hour endeavor (it started at 7 PMhave the pleasure to sigh on relief if you hadn't felt the
and went on until a little pass midnight) that brought mepain? How would we aspire for heaven if we didn't
to places of wonder, feelings of beauty and in contactrecognize the bit of hell that exists in our own story?
with the true reality of human existence.Today, we tend to blindly yearn for goodness and
Now, if you are not familiar with opera, you might bereject any hint of grief and sorrow. In an age where
wondering what in the world I am talking about. I know!for every pain there is a pill and where comfort must
Although opera singers were once as in vogue asbe achieved at all costs, we are pushed into the false
Britney Spears is today, the genre has lost its popularassumption that a fulfilling life is synonymous to
appeal. I would guess that most people nowadays,experiencing happy feelings all the time. The simple
would shrink with the idea of going to the opera.suggestion of a melancholic feeling becomes a trigger
However, it certainly didn't feel like that yesterday.to desperation, dissatisfaction and concern.
Even though we were in one of the largest operaA fulfilling life is a complete life. And life is everything.
theaters in the world, the performance was completelyUnhappy feelings, distress and pain are inevitable. They
sold out. Even after we had been sitting on thosewill happen. We will all experience them one way or
chairs for almost the same amount of time as theanother. And if we keep denying them and so eagerly
average American spends sleeping every night, we allrefuse to accept them as a fact, the more painful they
stayed for an extra 15 minutes giving a standingwill become.
ovation to all singers and musicians. We couldn't getNot that we should simply give up when the pain
enough!comes. This is no way to live either. The secret is
If you've never seen Tristan, I say: This is certainlybalance and the humility to understand that not every
worth a Saturday afternoon and a Netflix rental. If youmoment will be perfect, not every situation will be
have an opera house close by, go purchase a ticketpleasurable.
and indulge. But when you "take the plunge", makeM. Scott Peck starts his best-seller book The Road
sure you don't simply spend the time hearing the musicLess Traveled with the phrase "life is difficult." He goes
and noticing the singer's funny faces. Instead, Ion saying that it is only when we accept this idea and
encourage you to dive a little deeper. This work isstop fighting against it that we are able to understand
called a masterpiece for a reason. If you listen closely,fulfillment and joy.
don't be surprised, you might find yourself moved andAs you would imagine, in the opera, both Tristan and
touched by a raw depiction of humanity.Isolde were never able to accept the contrast of life --
Wagner's opera is all about contrast. As the storyof course. This is a romantic opera. What else would
develops he brings us closer to our own realyou expect? Instead, they end up choosing death in
contradictions -- day and night, light and darkness, malethe hopes that it would give them eternal peace and
and female, friendship and betrayal, love and death.love. What they didn't know was that relief was
Even the set of yesterday's performance was halfimminent. Their nemesis, King Marke was closely
black, half white. And as I journeyed through this story, Iapproaching to pardon and unite them. Life had been a
couldn't help thinking about the importance of thisstruggle for them, but peace was just round the
contrast in our lives. How life would be without its upscorner. I hope you will remember this next time grief
and downs?comes your way.